These past few days have been rather difficult. I found out that the eldest son of one of my dearest friends got into some trouble and had been held in police custody for 2 weeks today.
I saw him grow from a toddler and now he's in his early 20s. Somewhere along the way, something must have gone wrong and now he's going through what I believe must be the worst time of his life.
I won't go through the nitty gritty, but at this point we still don't know whether he'll be released or what his chances may be. It is sad, very, very sad, and I'm controlling my tears now as I write.
But I still write because I feel that this is something I should share.
Children do not come in a "one size fits all" thingy. Children are not guaranteed to do good things because they've been taught good things. Children need not do things intelligently because they are intelligent. Children need not do as we say because we tell them to do so. Children are children, and while they are our greatest joys, they can also be our greatest heartaches. But I guess, as parents, we must always try to pay the fullest attention to our children. No matter how tired we may be, no matter how *toot* our day had been, no matter how, no matter what, we must always be there for our children, always.
Our lives go on, I still do all the things I have to do, but it's been difficult. I can only imagine what my darling friend is going through. My heart and my prayers are with her...
As Bree Van De Kamp says, "I work too, I'm a Home Maker." (pix of Rosie The Riveter copied from smartgirlsknow.com)
I can't even begin to imagine the heartache that your friend is going through. Prayers for the family to stay united and strong, hope for the best outcome under the difficult circumstances.
ReplyDeleteJules, exactly!
ReplyDeleteI do feel for your friend and do convey my condolences. Another thing that needs to be highlighted is never ever to blame parents for the kids' mischief or misdemenour.
It gets to me bila anak2 especially anak2 yg dah besar buat perangai orang akan bertanya sapa la mak bapak budak tu. Partially it is the upbringing but I do believe each individual child is born with different sets of hearts and not all of them are golden. The parents have done their natural best but sometimes the children tu yg tersalah ikut jalan no matter how we try to guide them all the way. It's their choice.
I know this family yg parents dia the clubbing type and the tak solat type also but out of three of their kids, one came out to be so baik and tak pernah tinggal solat. Dia jaga adik2 and takes care of the house. It's perplexing Jules and as hard as we try, some things are out of our control.
Bahagian masing2 kan. Anak2 ustad pun ada yg terpeleot jugak and itu anak ustad tu. Like I said dugaan ibu bapa.
Semoga kita dijauhkan drp semua tu Jules.